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The Price of Procrastination

September. The season of self. Sounds sweet, right? But a week in, has the "new month new energy" mantra dried up?

There are 115 days of the decade left.

 

Read that again because clearly it didn't sink in. 

We live in a world inherently set up to distract us, especially in this generation. Whether we are focusing on a moral panic to ignore a political issue, or gorging on hours of social media content to distract us from real life. Often, we tend to feel as though we do not have enough time, vigour or freedom to get everything done. Gradually your responsibilities mount, and things get pushed aside, and your vision is slowly shoved out of sight under a false excuse of 'prioritising'. 

An unfed mind devours itself.

Keep eating. Stay hungry. 

I stopped eating, metaphorically of course, when I began delaying my plans for my brand/business. My store has been ready since March and it has taken me six months of pondering, fear and nerves to finally show the world what I have been working with. Procrastination held me back, excruciatingly. Don’t be a victim of the same poison.

Get into the habit of asking yourself “Does this support the life I am trying to create?” 

Seriously guys. We are creating our lives every single day and whatever you are not changing you are CHOOSING. 


What did your efforts PRODUCE? Working hard is cute, seeing results is even cuter. 

So, the season of self. 

Get selfish. 

Get focused. 

Get results. 

 

On that note, I want to thank each and every one of you for reading:  whether this is the first time or the fiftieth. You are a part of this movement and we are stepping it up a notch...

 

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The Curse of the Comfort Zone

 

In my years, few but enriched, I have lived a life which demonstrates that difference is not a barrier to excellence.

 

I have this strange obsession with leaving a legacy. I suppose my yearning for success has always meant more than just “me”. Is this horrifically self-centered and does is reek of narcissism? Possibly. Does it invoke a sense of self-worth and drive me towards each mini and mega goal in my life? Absolutely.

 

Recently I have been thinking a lot about the ruthless decade that is my "twenties". Once immersed in the simulation of social media we see people getting opportunities left, right and centre and each time that voice in your head screams "Must be nice", "When is it my turn" - and just like that, jealousy will have you gossiping about who you should be learning from.

 

Sometimes we are just not ready yet! Our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed and rearranged to relocate us to the place we’re meant to be. This is such an important time in our lives - the formative years on the cusp of excellence. You cannot grow from ruined soil, so get cleaning.

 

Has 2019 been living up to your expectations?

 

This year I was ready for smooth sailing and a 2019 full of wins. So far I have had nothing but a bumpy ride towards a jagged edge. I really learned the hard way that if you don’t take time for your wellness, you will be forced to take time for your illness. Choose reflection over recovery every time, please.

 

Earlier this year I began “cleaning” my life through seeking counseling and it has been a ray of sunshine amongst a myriad of clouds. Some of you may need to let the pride go, leap out of your comfort zone and admit you need some support. Now, in regards to life, I want to be everything and nothing, all at once. I want the liberty to be everything, I also want the tranquility of less. It is safe to say I don’t know what I want. Do you?

 

Maybe you are not happy with life because you do not know what you want from it.

 

Who am I?

What do I want?

What do I need?

 

Knowing the answers to those three seemingly simple questions will accelerate your journey of self-discovery.

 

I always say it, but my life is art and I will design it to the best of my ability. Sometimes the paint spills, sometimes the brush curves, sometimes I draw over the lines - but for every mistake, there is a win.

 

I hope you experience your win very soon.

With love and light, I wish you all the best. 

The Best Year of our Lives

Every year we get a chance. A chance to do better. A chance to be better. Your past is your past. You need to leave it there and start living in the now. This is going to be the best year of your life so far.

In preparation for 2019, I dedicated the last few months to replenishing my life and disassociating myself from all things that could serve as a distraction to my progression. Seeds were planted throughout 2018 and I nurtured them constantly. I sacrificed, I isolated myself. I strengthened my relationship with myself and removed all attachments to the material items that at one stage provided me with validation, the same validation that I now find within.
 

 

Tomorrow will be better and if it is not, I will say it again. 

 

Last year was as long as it was fleeting. As wonderful as it was painful. As confusing as it made sense. A weird one. Now, you must honour every version of yourself, particularly the person you used to be. That version allowed you to step into the power you have now. This year do more of everything that puts fire in your soul and peace in your heart. That is how you honour the person you will be.

 

 

REMINDER: Your life is truly art. Pick and choose everything you allow into your space wisely. It's your life, your masterpiece, and no one has to "get it" but you. It is creative living and you are crafting the greatest show on earth. 

 

2018 was the last year I hide in mediocrity or dwindle my thumbs in delay.

 

2019 is the first year I focus solely on my purpose, my passions and my happiness. Anything that doesn’t add to my peace of mind, I release. 

 

2019 is turning pain into power.



So with that, I leave you. To go forth with pride. Pick up resilience and passion on the way.

This is a year of rediscovery, peace and joy. This is the best year of our lives.

8 things I learned in 2018.

Good things come to those who wait. Better things come to those who work.

You cannot run from your purpose.

Gratitude is riches and complaint is poverty.

Kindness is a goal in itself.

Honesty is freedom. You heal when you reveal.

Life is not what you own but what you have.

Pettiness and greatness can never occupy the same space.

This world is far too expansive for self-imposed limits.

9 simple rules for 2019.

Do not let perfection paralyse you.

Stand in your own grandeur, let people rise to meet you.

Create the opportunities you are wishing for.

Be led by joy, not fear.

Let your emotions be your guide, but not your identity.

If you are procrastinating you are openly watching your future fold. Stop.

Most people don't really want to win they just want to be known as winners. Do not become obsessed with your image.

Put your dreams into conversation. Speak them into existence.

Thank your Creator eternally.

The Art of Moving On

Wow. Are you seeing how fast these years are passing? You better stop playing with your life. You better stop dwelling on things you cannot change. You better start moving on. 

As I write this post it is summer but it is raining, heavily. The seasons are merging and the weather is confusing. Some parts of nature are growing, others are waning, dying. Life is feeling as disordered. We have become accustomed to relying on the heat and the sun to bring us our lively energy to ‘live our best lives’. Now, without it, what is our source of resilient?

 

Ya damn self. 

September brings a sense of renewal, an air of regeneration. Many are entering new academic ventures, experiencing new beginnings and we all feel ready to re-focus and re-align. These last four months of the year must be productive and it is now up to you to lay the foundations for 2019. Combat the autumnal slump by reconciling with the faults of the year in order to move tranquilly into the future.

 

I lost my grandfather last month and my life was unearthed. Grieving feels like gliding on an ocean of happiness I cannot baptise myself in. But I am constantly making it a habit to check in with my thoughts. To observe. To mull over them objectively. To simply see where I have been, where I am at and, where I know I will be. I know these feelings will pass and I have faith in the future. I know moving on is the best possible choice.

If you do not heal from what hurt you, you will bleed on people who did not cut you.

If not for your own sake, move on for the sake of others! It is taxing for your friends and family watching you repeat unhealthy cycles and it is time to put that right. When you seek help, seek real help; not a counsellor rolled up, or a therapist in a bottle. 

 

You cannot solely rely on external sources of motivation, support or help. Ask for help and open up, but always know that if your mind is not centred on the next step, you will stay static. You have no shot of winning the next battle if you’re still dwindling on about the last set-back. Stay winning.

Some experiences are seasonal that is OK. Balance and building boundaries as we move through life is so important. Find your peace and then protect it by all means. Stepping back from certain people, places, and things is a part of the process sometimes. make room for yourself. You are worthy too.  

Once you reach a place of serenity...

Our trials become our triumphs.

Our tests become our testimony.

Our messes become our message.

Summer to autumn. The seasons are changing and so are our lives. Three months of the year left; move on and make them count.

Make each day your masterpiece and master the art of moving on.

Time and Triumph

Tis’ the season of stress. Tis’ the season of self-doubt. Tis’ the season you rise above it all.

 

Sometimes I’m critical, even ashamed, of myself because I know I should be doing 'more' but the path towards excellence is hazy. Without romanticizing struggle, you have to relish in the journey as much as the reward. So many of us want the peak, but hate climbing. We all want to grow, but don’t want any growing pains. We have to learn to trust the time and wait for the triumph.

Become resilient, wholly. Resiliency helps us both act and react in appropriate and productive ways.You don't have to be prepared for the obstacles, but you do have to challenge them. Failing is uncomfortable, even painful, but you may have to fight a battle more than once to win it. Come to terms with that, and you will become unstoppable. Take each day as it comes and harness the power of that day. Seize the blessings of that day. Make something happen, enhance your life, make someone laugh, help a friend, love!

 

Time will also show you that the traits that make you successful may not always make you happy. Equally the traits that make you happy may not make you successful. Bingeing on Netflix series’ makes me happy, but also sets me back hours of progress. Find equilibrium as what you focus on will flourish. Direct all your energy into your target. Six months later, you will thank yourself for that slight change.

 

Assess the small aspects; instead of stressing over why you haven’t got a job, take time to work on your CV, know your strengths and weaknesses inside out and gain experience. Become engrossed in your journey towards excellence, that when it comes it will be so natural. Life is so subtle sometimes that you barely notice yourself walking through the doors you once prayed would open. Sometimes your best blessings come out of your worst situations​. Extremely cringe-worthy, I know. But think about it. The more you accept and become accustomed to the ‘bad’, the more prepared and appreciative you will be of the good and, believe me, the good is coming. Trust the timing. Keep building! Keep grinding! Keep working!

 

I honestly can't wait until all the pieces come together and I finally understand why I went through everything I did.​ But until then, I strive to remain grateful for all these lessons. I'm going to get everything I want, it might take a little bit of time but I will get it all​. In the meantime, self-assurance is my best friend, and should be yours too.

 

After all, how can I fear the next chapter when I know the author?

The Value of YOU

Are you happy with who you are?

 

Triggering question, I know. Its the kind of question to which I reply “What do you mean?” several times so I can think of a way to change the subject or a joke to diffuse the overwhelming tension. Someone asked me this a few months ago and I couldn’t find the words to respond.  Not because I didn’t know the answer, but instead because I knew it instantly.

No. I didn’t like who I was. I was all too aware of the faults of my character, yet I ignored my responsibility to fully acknowledge them. This crushing realisation forced me to make some promises to myself. I vowed to start living up to my own potential.  To start making myself proud.  To start living my truth.

 

We have often yawned at the cliché: ‘Love makes the world go round’. Yet, it’s true. Love is the binding agent that holds the entire universe together. Many of us place conditions on our love and, specifically, we wont love ourselves until we lose, or put on, the weight, or get the job, or get the raise, or the boyfriend, or whatever. But we can love ourselves as we are right now! Self-love does not imply vanity or narcissism. Many try to conflate these concepts to deter others from reaching a point of self love and, sadly, it is effective. A barricade of people claiming you’re “too vain” or “stuck up” when you are merely content with yourself and don’t require praise and accolades in return can be enough to break you.

I say, live with integrity. If you promise yourself that you’re going to work harder this month, or raise your standards next week, stick to it! You were not created to feel worthless. Demand respect from others, but mainly yourself! Demand appreciation and acknowledgement when it is due to you. Romanticize yourself. You are a masterpiece, even if still a work-in-progress. Be your biggest cheerleader and a fan all in one. You are absolutely killing it!​

However, self love isn’t just bubble baths & sensationalism. It is also recognising your own problems, owning up to your issues, accepting your flaws, & encouraging yourself to do better.​ First and foremost, bitterness will corrupt a heart of gold. It is always easier said than done to let go of hurt, and negativity but you can never flourish if you do not forgive first. “That’s just how I am” is a poor excuse for negative behaviour. Be accountable and be aware. No one is going to spoon feed you the tools of excellence; it is your responsibility to go out there and find your path. All the best!

Through my own personal journey of development, I found that self-love is not a destination; it’s a practice. Self-love is the foundation upon which we build a prosperous life and other meaningful relationships.

 

 

In a society that profits from your self doubt, loving yourself is rare, even rebellious…Viva la rebellion!

Manifesting Magnificence

Each new year comes around and I am excited and apprehensive. Excited for the new ventures, challenges yet, extremely nervous at how I will react to the problems, set-backs and issues. 2017 was my year of learning: studyng myself; culminating my strengths, but also accepting my weaknesses. 2018 is the manifestation of these lessons.

For as long as I can remember, I have had a zest for writing. Due to a combination of fear, anxiety and a desire for perfection, I never thought I could blog. With a new year on my hands, I'm in an ideal headspace, a great environment, and surrounded by amazing people. Still, I’m rattled by self -doubt and questions. Will I be healthy? Will I be successful? Will I be magnificent?

Over the past year I had to put myself in the driver’s seat and truly acknowledge the fact that I was in control of my own happiness and most importantly, my destiny. Whether I was slaving through sixth form or shining all summer there was always something else to focus on. I knew something was missing and I asked myself:

“If you died right now, and God asked you what you have done with the talents he gave you, what would you say?”

 

I couldn’t answer. I have ‘gone with the flow’ for nineteen years, barely making an effort to be unique or different. I barely knew myself, let alone my talents. And, at that point, I realised there were 3 C's in my life; choice, chance and change. I must make a choice to take a chance or my life will never change​.

 

Now think about 2018. See it, feel it, experience it like it’s already happened. See yourself achieving your goals and manifesting your heart’s desires. Who is around you? Allow yourself to future-trip. Smile as you see yourself reaching your goals, being surrounded by loved ones, and achieving what it is you want. When you are finished your visualisation, prepare yourself, mind body and spirit, for your magnificence.

 

Write a letter to your future self​. Let it be known how you feel now, and how you want to feel in the future. Set your goals to be achieved by December 31st. Many of my blessings arose organically, some by surprise, but the there are many gifts that can be crafted by ourselves. Harness your enthusiasm and apply yourself.

 

There are years that ask questions and years that answer. 2018 will certainly be the latter.

In 2018 I am healthy. In 2018 I am successful. In 2018 I am magnificent.

 

7 things I learned in 2017.

I must live for myself.

Love your alone time. If you’re always in the mix, you’ll lose flavour.

Don’t let success go to your head or failure go to your heart.

My emotions are not my enemy.

Inner peace counts as success.

What is for me, will find me.

There is no growth where there is no accountability.

 

8 simple rules for 2018.

Forgive yourself, but adjust your habits.

Put your future first.

Let people know how important they are to you. You never know what tomorrow holds.

Grind, grind, and grind some more.

Get out of your comfort zone.

Transform all losses into lessons.

Nurture your passions.

Thank your Creator eternally.